Good or bad decision...one second, one choice away...

I have been thinking about life choices. We make them everyday, thousands of times a day. Do I want coffee or tea this morning, do I want to turn right or left or go straight, do I want to stop at the store on the way home...those are basic decisions, some we make by actually thinking about them and deciding, some just by remote control because it is what we do everyday. Even those can change our lives in a blink of an eye. If we make a wrong turn and have an accident because we are in the wrong place or wrong time. Then there are the big choices, some of which are thought out with many things considered. Some of which are a spur of the moment, "it seemed like a great idea at the time". These will, more than likely, make big changes in our life, good or bad. Marriage is a big decision, one that will affect you for the rest of your life. It should be a well thought out decision, weighing all the pros and cons. There are a lot of questions - do you both want kids, do you love each other, are you compatible, do you have values that are similar? Some people take their time and get to know a person before making that commitment. Sometimes that marriage will work and sometimes it won't. Others jump into marriage, not knowing much about the other person, but believing that love is enough to make it together. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. Same thing applies to drugs, alcohol, gambling, anything could become an addiction. It should be thought out, but I am sure it is more of a spur of the moment decision. No one takes a drink or a drug thinking they will become addicted to it, no one puts that first quarter in the slot thinking they will lose control. It could be a one time thing or it could grab you and change your life forever. It might not even be the first time that you try it, it might be the 2nd, or 50th, just depends on how lucky you are, I imagine. It is like playing Russian Roulette with your brain. Some people are "wired" in their brain to become addicted. It can be hereditary. And sometimes you meet someone. They become a part of your life. They can be someone who enriches your life, supports you, makes you laugh, listens to you. Hopefully they are genuine and remain a great part of your life. But sometimes things change, people aren't who you think they are, or something happened to make them change. Maybe something happened to them in their past which was not good. Maybe something triggers a memory and they become depressed, bitter, or angry. You may not even know it has happened, but you can see they have changed a bit and you are not sure why. Maybe they become angry with you because you never had to deal with something bad like they did. They start fighting with you, being angry at you all the time. Maybe they start spreading rumors about you. Maybe the rumors are horrible, life changing rumors that could get you into a lot of trouble. You can try to talk to them, ask them why they are doing this to you. Ask why they are telling lies about you. The police may get involved. All you can do is tell the truth and hope they can see through the lies. You may lose some friends who don't know the real you. Hopefully you have enough people who love you and believe in you to support you through the ordeal. Not sure what I am trying to say through all of this. Just lots on my mind. I just want to say, be careful with your decisions. Be careful who you allow to be close to you. It is great to have friends, just make sure they are on the same "side" as you and want to be a positive part of your life and not someone who runs if you ever need some support or a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen. Not everyone is willing to be a good friend and not use your feelings or actions against you. Sometimes you need to be a bit cautious with your trust, your feelings, and your heart. And please don't do drugs!